Steve Andreas > Books Authored > Six Blind Elephants > Chapter 12
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Rather than go all the way to a specific sensory-based example, you can always work with a subcategory, as long as it provides you with enough specific information to know what is going on, and be able to make an appropriate change. This is something that very few therapists do.
Redirecting attention to a more specific category also makes the problem seem smaller and less overwhelming than the more general category. The more general categorization is not changed; you just go inside it and attend to a nested subcategory.
“You say that she drives you nuts. OK, what kind of situation do you find difficult? Is it talking about topics that you and she have very different opinions on, like spending money, or how to handle the kids, or is it what you do when you have quiet time together, and you want to have sex, but she doesn’t want to, or... ?”
By the principle of inheritability, any subcategory must have the qualities specified in the more general category. This makes it likely that a solution for the experiences in the subcategory will also be effective for the experiences in the more general one.
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