Steve Andreas > Articles > Gaining Additional Perspectives in Relationships

Summary

A person can continue to move from one position to another as long as it continues to provide useful information. Usually we end in self position, since this is the way we can most resourcefully live most of our lives. (However, if an experience is very intense, the client may feel more comfortable and resourceful ending in Observer position.)

Using this process on a situation always clarifies it, sometimes profoundly. The learnings that are made in each position carry over and enrich the others. Usually this exercise results in the client:

1. becoming clearer about wants, needs, and goals,
2. feeling more personally resourceful,
3. becoming more intuitively accurate about others’ experiencing,
4. being more compassionate toward others,
5. having more access to creative solutions,
6. experiencing greater wisdom in relationships.

Like any other skill, learning how to enter each position and experience it, and learning how to spontaneously shift quickly and easily from one position to another, improves with practice. Using this process as homework hones the skill, at the same time that it clarifies and enriches situations that have been difficult and troublesome. These new learnings are felt understandings, not mental ones, and they carry over into the daily interactions with the other person, changing how the other person is perceived, understood, and responded to.