4. Look and listen around you for someone who is noticeably good at something
Look and listen around you for someone who is noticeably good at something or consistently exhibits a pleasant or useful attitude, and model that. This may be a particularly useful option. Although consistent attitudes typically generalize widely, they can be fairly simple in structure/process. Ror example, a ukseful attitude may be a consequence of a single fundamental presupposition. There are plenty of attitudes the world could use more of (gratitude, appreciation, tenacity, friendliness, tolerance, love, respect, connection, equality) and plenty of attitudes the world could use less of (scorn, hatred, meanness, superiority, inferiority, coercion/manipulation, imposition, distance, grouchiness, etc.). You can think of people in your life whose attitude you particularly like or dislike, and model that. I got interested in modeling self-concept by my dislike of pompous people whose self-esteem seemed to be much too high!
