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Steve: Somebody picking you up. (Woman: Yeah.) And swinging you around. And that was not pleasant, right? (Woman: No.) Now over here, how many other people, roughly, over here? (Woman: Um, a couple.) Just a couple? (Yeah.) And over here? (Woman: Two.) OK, two in both.
Let me just explain what I am fishing for a little bit. Sometimes in the experience of shame there is some kind of distortion. Sometimes the other people are larger. Sometimes the person—yourself in this case—sometimes its not real in some way. The person is deformed, or without clothes, or in some way there is a representation of not being fully yourself. (Woman: Umhm.)
Man: If you are a kid and they are bigger—
Steve: Yeah, well, I mean bigger proportionally. Unrealistically bigger. Sometimes, you know, you feel very small and theres these giants around you, and although kids could experience that just with the normal size, often theres a distortion of this nature. So I gather there arent any of these in that? (Woman: No.) Fine, good. Now, just as an aside, if there were distortions like that, right now I would change those before I did anything else.
Just as in the grief pattern, if someone sees the lost person in a coffin, you make it into the live person, the person that they miss, the person that they loved and cared for, not the body in the coffin. You would make a specific content change in the picture at this point if that were the case.
Man: So those are not only content distortions, but also size distortions? What are you talking about?
Steve: Im talking about that as a content distortion, because its specific to content. You can think of size as a submodality. If the whole picture changes, I call it a submodality change. Maybe theres a middle ground, I dont know what youd call it. But anyway, if there was a big/little distortion, I would have them change that at this point.
Man: And also a looking distortion?
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