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This book is sequenced very carefully, beginning by briefly offering you some general understandings about self-concept, values, and self-esteem. Then I discuss some of the reasons for the extraordinary power of self-concept, and some important criteria for how a healthy self-concept that is aligned with your values can function to create the kind of person you want to be. (Chapters 1, 2, 3)
Then come structured discovery exercises in which you can personally experience different aspects of your self-concept, and learn how you can make the positive qualities of your self-concept stronger by making small but sometimes profound and far-reaching changes in how you think of yourself. (Chapters 4, 5, 6)
Next is discovering how you can use the times when you made mistakes to make your self-concept even stronger and more effective, and then learning how to transform these mistakes, so that the next time life presents you with a similar challenge you can spontaneously respond the way you want to. (Chapters 7, 8)
Then you will learn how to build an entirely new quality in yourselfchoosing a quality that you want to have, and making it into part of who you are. (Chapter 9)
Next we will take a quality in yourself that you are uncertain aboutsometimes you think you are, and sometimes you think you arentand change that unpleasant ambiguity into a calm certainty, a quiet knowing that fits your values. (Chapter 10)
Then we will investigate the dangers in comparing yourself with others and thinking of yourself in terms of what you are not, and how to avoid the serious problems that this causes. (Chapter 11)
Next you will learn how to transform a quality in yourself that you dont like into one that you do like, one that expresses what you really want in life. (Chapter 12)
Then there is a shift in focus as we explore the boundaries of your self-concept, and how to change how you respond to events by having boundaries that flexibly protect you from the opinions, beliefs, and intrusions of others. (Chapter 13)
Next we explore how to adjust the boundaries of your self-concept to make it easier to connect with others in shared intimacy, while maintaining a secure sense of yourself. (Chapter 14)
Finally, I present some closing comments summarizing how you can use all that you have learned.
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