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Sometimes it can be very useful to reexamine old standards and update them, or refine them to make them more detailed and specific. You can find several pages about doing this in Heart of the Mind, (pp. 151-154)
Man: I really like it when you mentioned that part about, you know, the times when you want to look at different possibilities for what you want to do.
Steve: Yeah. Well, if you are sloppy, then you get sloppy results and if— seriously, it is possible. People used to go to assertiveness training seminars and all it did was teach them to be a prick. They just went out in the world going, Up yours! and I want my demands and to hell with yours! It really does happen. And we want to build in all the forks so the person has the full range of response and the full range of choices. If you dont explicitly build it in that way, it may not get in there. Some people will do it anyway, but in this case we like to think of other people as not competent, and make sure that we are competent so that just in case they are not competent, we can cover all the bases.
Man: I was thinking that in some situations where you have shame, the parental reimprinting might be a real helpful part of the process?
Steve: Sure.
Man: Do you think growing a part up might be helpful?
Steve: Of course.
Man: So theres a lot of things weve already done that just blend in with it.
Steve: Yes. Thats true. Absolutely. Now, so far every time I have done this, it has been enough, we didnt need to do those other things. But I have no objections. And you see, when you build this thing in and you make this transition and then you take it back through time, you are making it into a through-time characteristic of the person. So you are building a piece of self-concept. You are building a self-resource that the person will carry with them through time.
This is a really important distinction. You can change a single event without thereby building it into the person as a capability. Thats one of the lovely things about the decision destroyer, or timeline reprinting, and so on, where you go back and you bring all that stuff with you. Then its there with you all the time. Its just like your name. You are never without your name, its always there. You dont think about it, but if somebody asks you, or you have a challenge that relates to that, then boom, that stuff is there. Are there any other questions before we go through the steps of the process?
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