“‘Everybody talks about the weather, but nobody does anything about it,’ and the same is usually true of self-concept and self-esteem. This book is a happy exception. With specific instruction, real-life examples, and an all-important sense of humor, Steve Andreas unpacks this vitally important process clearly and succinctly, going ‘under the hood’ to show you how to rebuild, fine tune, and change your self-concept and self-esteem.”
—Bill O’Hanlon, MFT,
author/coauthor of 20 books,
including Do One Thing Different
and In Search of Solutions.
“I use the simple, yet transformative, processes in this book regularly in my practice with astounding results—ten times the progress in one quarter the time. Every therapist would do well to add these skills to their repertoire.”
—Lonnie Barbach, Ph.D. Psychologist,
author of For Yourself and The Pause
“In this innovative and engaging book, Steve Andreas provides a clear lens for better seeing the core of who we are. In the process, he shatters some popular but silly myths about self-concept and self-esteem, replacing them with useful concepts and practical strategies for enhancing who we are, and who we think we are.”
—Michael D. Yapko, Ph.D., Clinical Psychologist,
author of Breaking the Patterns of Depression.
“If you read only one book this year, make it this one. While the world of psychotherapy is dizzy trying to learn techniques, here is one of the very few books that provides enduring value! Bringing the logic and specificity that only Steve Andreas can, this long overdue book about the positive development of self raises the benchmark for how we can achieve personal growth and health.”
—Stephen Lankton, MSW, DAHB,
author of 15 books, including
The Answer Within,
Practical Magic, and
Tales of Enchantment
“This work is the best and most thorough example of NLP modeling
excellence that I have. The organization, sequencing, breadth of thinking, and rigor in distinguishing between structure/process and content shines throughout. I love the teaching style: clear distinctions, examples, humor, demonstration, and gems of practical wisdom in every chapter. I have used many of these methods in my own life, and my clients are also using them to get immediate results.”
—Kirk VandenBerghe, NLP Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Coach.
“In this beautiful and often brilliant book, Steve Andreas addresses the core distinction of personal identity. Rather than allowing identity to be merely a result of external forces, he shows how you can skillfully participate in the ongoing construction, deconstruction, and rebirthing of a happy and helpful sense of self. The examples are lucid, the methods are practical and eminently useful, and the writing is exceptionally clear. I highly recommend it!”
—Stephen Gilligan, Ph.D.,
author of Therapeutic Trances and
The Courage to Love
“This is a most remarkable book. Many have traveled to the misty land of identity and self-concept, but until now, none have returned with a comprehensive framework of understanding. It is elegant, understandable, and above all, eminently practical. Steve Andreas takes you on an exciting journey of curiosity, exploration and self-discovery through demonstrations, guided exercises, stimulating discussion, and ample humor. Take this journey; you will be richly rewarded.”
—Glen Johnson, M. D., psychiatrist
“Reading this book is like inviting Steve Andreas “all shaggy and warm” right into your living room. You expect to have your eyes opened about self-concept, and they are. Then it turns out to be much more: an exploration of many of the ins and outs and mysteries of being human, too. Steve’s astonishing directness and inviting confidence make it all easy to hear and take in.”
—David Gordon,
author of Therapeutic Metaphor